50 THINGS I KNOW ABOUT MOTHERHOOD

I CAN hardly believe it but it’s true, my beautiful girl will turn two years of age in just a few days time.

Just where oh where did my baby go?!

As I prepare for Elsie’s birthday celebrations (she’s only requested that I make her a Raa Raa cake people, help!) I’ve also been thinking about the parenting journey that I’ve been on over the past couple of years.

When Elsie arrived I knew very little about looking after babies and children, you could even say I was clueless. But two years later, she’s still alive (hoorah!) happy and bursting with character, so I don’t think I’ve done too bad a parenting job at all, for a new mum who didn’t have a clue.

Here are fifty things I’ve learnt about motherhood over the past two years. Some of you will recognise many of them. Others (perhaps like other ‘clueless’ first time mums) may even pick up a few tips. Here’s hoping ey?

 

1. When you become a parent, your life will never be the same as it was, but that’s ok because your little person or little people will only enrich it.

2. It is EXHAUSTING at times, but you soon become an expert at getting by on little sleep and dealing with the awful sleep deprivation.

3. Breastfeeding can be a tricky business, but if it comes easily to you and you enjoy it, it really is rather lovely.

4. If you do breastfeed, people will stare or become uncomfortable when you get your boobs out. But it’s their problem not yours so just ignore them, give them a wave and carry on.

5. You don’t have to breastfeed. As long as your baby is being fed, it’s nobody’s business how they get their milk. 

6. Changing a nappy is ridiculously easy once you know how. I still needed a midwife to show me though.

7. Leaky nappies happen often (and are rather horrid) so always be prepared. Always pop a change of outfit, nappies and wipes in your bag.

8. Ignore the celebrities, it takes time to get your pre-pregnancy body back, so relax and don’t be hard on yourself. And whilst we’re at it, be proud of those stretchmarks too, I beg of you.

9. Everyone will always have on an opinion on your parenting. Life will therefore be easier if you accept it and don’t take it personally. Let people spout off, just know that you don’t have to listen or take notice.

10. Some parenting days will be such a struggle, that you end up shedding tears. 

11. But other days will seem like an absolute doodle. When they happen, enjoy every second. 

12. Never get complacent. Children are very good at surprises so expect the unexpected. 

13. Don’t compare your child to anyone elses and don’t let anyone do it to you. Competitive parenting is awful and will never make you popular.

14. CBeebies will be your best friend. When you need to tidy up, get dressed or drag a brush through your hair, it’s ok to stick the tele on for a bit. 

15. Babies really aren’t newborns for long. At the time it can feel like an eternity but it really does go by far too quickly. 

16. You are never off duty when you’re a parent. Never. But you somehow get used to it.

17. Teething is a bitch. When it happens try everything until you find something that helps.

18. It’s perfectly ok to rush your child to A&E when you mistake a sweat rash and fever for meningitis or they stick a pea up their nose. Yes it’s embarrassing but it’s always better to be safe than sorry.

19. It can takes donkey’s years for your child to settle at nursery but they will do and guess what? They’ll even grow to love it.

20. When your child is upset or in pain, there is no worse feeling in the world.

21. Children don’t need lots of toys but they do need stimulation, company and lots of love and affection.

22. When it comes to play, the simplest things like bubbles, balls, books, cardboard boxes and crayons, are the best. (And the cheapest) 

23. However, if you can get your hands on a Jumperoo, do. Little people go crazy for them!

24. As a parent to a little one, you will never drink a full cup of warm tea of coffee, again. Unless they’re at nursery or with the grandparents that is.

25. You will however drink a lot more wine. And you will look forward to it. 

26. The cry it out method does NOT work for everyone and can often make things worse.

27. When your child doesn’t sleep, the only solution, is to do what works for YOU.

28. ‘Baby brain’ happens. To the best of us. Annoying but comes in handy for those times when you need ‘selective memory’.

29.  The love you have for your child is like nothing you will experience or have experienced before. It really is the most beautiful thing.

30. You would happily kill or give up your life to protect your child. The fiercest women I know are all mothers.

31. Motherhood is a gift and a privilege but even devoted mums need and deserve a break from time to time.

32. Your house will become a pigsty. Accept the mess during the day and clear when they are in bed. Nobody really cares how messy you house is, as much as you.

33. If you work, you will always feel guilty but it’s a great thing to do, so keep at it.

34. Motherhood can often feel lonely, but fresh air, plenty of long walks, coffee with friends and talking to people can help.

35. Every child plays up in public sometimes. But even though you know this, you still want the ground to swallow you up when it happens to be yours.

36. Little people pick up on everything so watch you language and your manners. Be kind and realise that how you treat others, is what your child will perceive as the norm. Be the right example.

37. Bumps and scrapes will become a part of your daily life once they are on the move.

38. Sometimes it can take a really long time until they’re on the move, but fret not, that’s ok. 

39. Little people move quick so  grow eyes in the back of your head if you can.

40. Sometimes babies and toddlers eat LOTS. Other days they will hardly eat a thing. Worrying yes but totally normal.

41. Not every baby or toddler sleeps through the night. Consider yourself incredibly lucky if they do.

42. Gap socks are the best in the world for little people as they cannot pull them off their feet. My sister told me this. I am forever in her debt.

43. Toddler tantrums will happen completely out of the blue, and can often be really funny. Unless you’re in public.

44. Nothing cannot be fixed with a big mummy cuddle.

45. Motherhood will change you but only for the better. Saying that, make sure you hold on to your identity too. It’s easy to lose it sometimes.

46. Nobody is a perfect mum. Nobody. Even the best of us have really sh***y days. So never feel that you are not good enough, because you are.

47. Motherhood is a bloody tough job and often undervalued but it is the only one that really counts. (Same with fatherhood).

48. It’s ok to struggle and ask for help. Grandparents, other relatives and friends will all chip in to give you a break if you’re lucky, ask nicely or bribe them.

49. There is absolutely no feeling in the world like the moment when you hold your child for the first time. You will remember it forever and think of it often.

50. Finally…no matter how bad your day is, or how bad you feel, nothing will cheer you up or make you feel more grateful to be alive, than to receive a kiss, smile, chuckle or cuddle from your child. Yes they can be hard work at times, but they really do know how to make you feel like life is worth living.

 



 

 

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36 Discussions on
“50 THINGS I KNOW ABOUT MOTHERHOOD”
  • Love your list – I was teary and giggly by turns :)

    Agree completely on the Gap socks thing, they also have rubber grips on the feet which are a godsend for toddlers.

    Thanks xx

    • If i’ve made you laugh and cry in one post, well…what can I say! I am over the moon! :-)

      Thanks so much for popping by and yes Gap socks are brilliant! I completely forgot to mention the rubber grips too but they have been a godsend in our house with slippy wooden floors! x

  • Very sensible list of the things that you can only really learn with the hindsight of being a parent.

    I would add that supermarket nappies are just as good as the big brand ones that cost half the price (took me a while to learn that one!)

    #brillblogposts

    • Agree Chloe, you just can’t imagine what it’s like to be a parent until you are one…and then it’s like, oh my goodness, they were all right! ;-)

      Great tip! I never knew this! Thanks for sharing x

  • Such a game of two halves parenting isn’t it? And as they get older, it gets better and better but harder and harder all at the same time! Happy birthday to your little girl and best of luck on the ra ra cake – seriously?!

    • Oh it really, really is! ;-) Thank you for your kind words, I know I must be mad right?! (HELP!) X

    • Why thank you! How lovely of you to say. The pic is one of my favourites :-) So pleased you enjoyed the list! x

  • Babies aren’t babies for long!! Before you know it they are independent souls making more sense of the world than you do !!

  • A fantastic list, i agree with all of it. I think the only thing i can add is guilt is normal and try nolt to feel bad about it. I remember the first few months after my second child was born feeling guilty about everything from not spending as much time with my older child, not having the same amount of time for my newborn. Once i got over this and realise that i can’t do everything at once my life became a lot easier. Well done Katie x

    • Ooooh yes Deborah! SUCH a good point! The guilt! I think every mum on the planet experiences it, I know I certainly do and I only have one child to feel guilty about! Great tip. Thank you so much for sharing and popping by x

  • I LOVE that picture of you two! Isn’t it crazy how quickly time flies. Fantastic list – I was nodding as I read it. Hindsight really is 20/20 – wish I read this before my two came along :) Hope you have a wonderful time this weekend lovely lady x

  • Now that’s what I call a Mums’ List!! I agree with all of them. The only things I would add would be try and get 3 hours sleep in a row every day (not everyone agrees but sleep deprivation did TERRIBLE things to me, so I had to do it and it remains my number 1 lesson) and the other thing is I didn’t realise how much I would come to rely on Dry Shampoo! I think I will encourage myself to wash more next time ;)

    Thanks for linking up, I love this! xxx

    • Ooooh yes I’m all for encouraging more new mums to try and find some sleep! Great tip! And yes Dry shampoo! How on earth did I forget that?!

      So pleased you enjoyed it. It was a pleasure x

  • Oh Kate, another of my all time favourite posts of yours to add to my list which is so long it’s a library of brilliant posts (love ya)-I agree with everything, gap socks too rock (a friend told me this pre Oliver too) and the strength of unconditional love is incredible. Not long ago Oliver ran in front of a car at the supermarket to catch up with his Dad who crossed before him thinking I had Oliver. I was shutting the car door. The car was going slowly but as soon as my usually very careful and cautious child went in front, I jumped in front to stop him being hit. Not a thought for my own life. Then, truly and really then did I realise we will DIE for our children. I had a stiff drink that night, the car had stopped in time obviously and all was well but taught me a HUGE (multi-layered) lesson. Thanks so much for linking this beauty up to #brilliantblogposts, feel honoured to have you x

    • Woooo! Thank you darling! I am honoured by your comment :)

      I can remember you telling me about the car/ Oliver incident and yes you’re absolutely right, we will DIE for our children, without even a moment’s thought. (So glad you were all ok!)

      x

    • Thank you Mummy Tries! Thankfully the Raa Raa cake was a hit! (Breathes huge sigh of relief) x

  • Lovely post very true especially about newborns not staying that way for long my youngest 5 months feels like she was born 5 mins ago it don’t no where the times gone!

  • What a great list. I couldn’t agree more about competitive parenting AND getting advice / opinions from everyone.

    Isn’t it incredible how becoming a mom changes everything, sometimes I wonder what I did with myself before my son was born.

    #AllAboutYou

    • Gosh it really is Angie! Everyone tells you how life changes when you become a parent, but you don’t fully grasp it until it happens to you! :) T

  • Excellent post! I especially agree with number 36, so easy to forget and so important, especially as they get older (as I’m discovering with our 7 year old). I’m impressed you managed to remember 50 things – my baby brain would not allow me to get past 10 I reckon!

  • Fab list, agree with them all 100% although tantrums in public don’t bother me at all. It’s amazing how much we have learnt and discovered as new mums isn’t it? Xxx

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