Five reasons the ‘Terrible Twos’ aren’t SO terrible

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IT’S the age that fills parents the world over with sheer and utter dread. 

The ‘Terrible Twos’, so terrible that they’ve actually been called terrible! I mean you can’t get more terrifying an age than that can you?!

Besides the teenage years – which thankfully for me as a mum are miles away in the foreseeable future – it is this age, this ‘terrible’ age, that we all come to fear.

We are warned when they are newborns, we are warned when they start to crawl, we are warned when we whinge about the lack of sleep or their lack of movement…just you wait until they hit two, people cry! Just you wait!

And so I did and I dreaded it and people’s warnings were pretty spot on. About a fortnight before Elsie’s 2nd birthday, my gorgeous daughter was replaced with a gorgeous little girl who looked and sounded exactly like her, but suddenly had a fondness for tantrums and for going bonkers in public.

It was my first taste of things to come and the ‘Terrible Twos’ haven’t disappointed on this score yet. However, it isn’t that bad. Honest.

Yes it’s more challenging and often more exhausting (seriously looking after a newborn is a piece of cake in comparison) but in the interest of sticking up for grumpy, feisty, argumentative and demanding two year olds everywhere, here are five reasons the ‘Terrible Twos’ really aren’t so bad.

Especially when you catch them on a good day.

 

1) They can be really good fun

Admittedly not all the time that is true but speaking from experience, there is no one that makes me laugh more than Elsie currently.

When she’s in good spirits, she is an absolute joy to be with and has a wicked sense of humour. From saying inappropriate things to attempting to dress herself or pulling silly faces, my daughter (and no I’m not biased) is HILARIOUS. Hell, even her temper tantrums can be pretty amusing to witness.

 

2) At least you know what they want (kinda)

When you leave hospital with a newborn baby, your job is to try and figure out their every need, for every minute, of every single day. If you’re lucky most times you’ll get it right, if you’re not, then those early days can be pretty traumatic. (Oh hello colic, so you’re the culprit that’s made my baby cry for 7 hours solid, are you?!).

At the beginning, it’s all guess work, luck and common sense. But when they hit two? Da daa! No more guesswork required!

Suddenly your child knows exactly what they want -and more importantly -what they don’t. And although, on most occasions, all you hear is “no, no, NO!” at least your brain racking is down to a minimum.

 

3) Their personalities begin to shine

I’m going to regret saying this I know I am but – *whispers quietly* – I really like Elsie at this age. I really do.

Why? Well because she’s very much her own person know. She knows what she likes and dislikes, she expresses herself, she has ‘favourites’ (food, toys, books etc) she’s incredibly active, always on the go and can natter to her little heart’s content.

Her personality shines through her every move, word and expression and it’s mostly, a truly wondrous thing to behold.

 

4) They sleep better (kinda)

Before you all get up in arms and tell me that I’m wrong, I’ll quickly say that no my daughter does not yet sleep through the night, every night of the week. (But oh how I wish she did!)

Since Elsie was 8 months old, I have lost count of the sleepless, exhausting nights that I’ve endured however, things do seem to be getting better. Sometimes she will sleep through the night for a couple of nights on the trot. And now, more often than not, if she does wake, she’s soon back into the land of nod quickly.

Yes we still have a tricky night every week or so, but on the whole, well, things do seem to be getting better and that my friends, is definitely cause for celebration.

 

5) They ‘love’ brilliantly

Ah, for every tantrum, for every naughty outburst, thankfully there is a cuddle. Or a squeeze. Or a “I love you Mummy, I do, I really do!”.

At two years of age, kids know exactly who they want to spend time with and who they want to show affection to. They hug you because they want to. They tell you they love you because you’re the centre of their world. They ask you to sit with them because they want your company.

Yes sometimes, I get told to “go away” or (Elsie’s particular favourite) ‘”leave me alone!”. Yes sometimes, Elsie can be difficult and refuse to cooperate but all those challenging moments are swept away and easily forgotten about with a loving gesture or show of affection.

A cuddle, a kiss, a simple ‘I love you’. That’s all it takes to remember that the ‘Terrible Twos’ really aren’t so terrible after all.

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In a bid to keep up the positivity, tell me, what’s the best thing about your child being 2? Or if you really disagree and think of the twos as the worst age ever, let me know why! As always, I love to hear what you’ve all got to say.

With love,

Kate

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“Five reasons the ‘Terrible Twos’ aren’t SO terrible”
  • I loved this post!! I’m only at the newborn stage, but I ignore people who do that stupid ‘just wait until they’re 2’ thing. My niece is 2 and nobody makes me laugh like she does! I’ve worked with 2-year-olds too, and yeah they do have tantrums, but they’re suddenly little humans with thoughts, feelings and the ability to express themselves. They’re also hilarious! So I’m looking forward to it, and I know my Iris will bring me as much joy as Elsie brings you.

  • You have made me laugh. I thought that Olivia’s terrible twos signs were bad, but seeing your post makes me realise they are actually not that bad. They are very similar to what you are mentioning above. Luckily we had none of that with my 7 year old.Once is enough ;)

    • Hurrah! Then my job is done lovely lady. I know there are occasional tough days but I think it’s important for us to realise that it’s not all bad!

  • My little one has just turned three and I don’t think the last year has been that bad – yes, we have both had some adjusting to do as she has become more independent but I love the increasing chattiness, the cuddles, the fact that she is able to do more for herself which makes things easier at times for me (although sometimes challenging when I could help her and it would be much quicker!). It is lovely when their personalities begin to really emerge :-)

    • See Louise, your experience is proof that it’s not all bad! Thanks so much for sharing and yes isn’t it amazing when their personalities start to really shine through? x

  • I could not agree more with this. I LOVE this age and wouldn’t change any of it. In fact I think this stage is so much easier than the newborn phase. This age is exactly why we have held off on having another baby, I want to take all this in. Enjoy every moment of this amazing phase, of the fun, the little chats we have, the piling into the car and heading off somewhere, anywhere on a random day. I love it all! The terrible twos have so far been pretty terrific for us. It’s far from ‘perfect’, Luca can be stroppy, tantrum and refuse to eat but none of that compares to the really good bits. Xx

  • Aw, I totally agree with these! Especially your “at least you know what they want…sorta.” :)

    The longer I parent, the more I learn to treasure each stage (as hard as that can be sometimes). It sounds like you’re doing it too!

    • I’m trying my best Erica! Love how you say ‘we should treasure each stage’ because we really,really should x

  • Such a fun stage as much as a challenging one, so formative and normal for them to air their frustration and tantrum, Alexander isn’t so far as serious as Oliver (Oliver is fun but so mature) and they really are such different children, plus I’ve forgotten so much from the first time round, must be the sleepless nights taking effect! Ha! Gorgeous picture of beautiful Elsie, love their inquisitiveness and thirst for knowledge and life and all the kisses and cuddles, can’t believe my baby officially turns 2 tomorrow! x

    • Yep there is much to be taken from this stage which is positive! As you say, particularly their thirst for knowledge and cuddles! Happy birthday to Alexander! xxx

  • Sounds like Elsie is at an adorable stage, and the tiger photo is gorgeous. Not all toddlers experience the terrible twos anyway, you might not have to worry about it xx

    • Thank you! She’s certainly getting feistier! But I don’t see anything wrong with that ;-) (Even if it does make life much more difficult! x

  • I think it’s sometimes hard to put the ‘terrible twos’ out of your mind when you have a little one, but the good far outweighs the bad and their tantrums are usually just out of frustration because they’re learning what they can and can’t do so I totally agree with your post. It’s definitely true for my toddler. Elsie sounds like a right little cutie.

    My 12 year old on the other hand is another matter unfortunately – dealing with her requires wine and lots of it!

  • I TOTALLY love Sebastian at this age! Ok so he’s not actually 2 for another couple of months but the tantrums have already started. With the eldest I used to get stressy when she had a rant but this time around I really have to stop myself chuckling when HE flings himself on the floor in frustration! Lovely post reminding us that each and every stage is so fleeting we should make the most of all of them! Xx

  • perfect! we suffered with the ‘terrible twos’ with my eldest, he was very hard work, but probably made worse by the arrival of his baby sister at 22 months old, said sister had a much easier 2 year phase, but now shes 3, shes not so much in the tantrums but shes a stubborn monkey and has us all wrapped around her little finger!

  • I truly can’t wait. Baby is almost 18 months old and her personality is really shining through,, but we get a lot of shouting and frustration as she is not able to fully tell us what she wants. This is a great post, I think every age is about what you make of it and your reaction to it, if that makes sense. There is something to miss and something to cherish at each stage. Thanks for linking up to #TheList x

  • We’re definitely beginning to hit the terrible twos with C dramatically throwing herself to the ground when she doesn’t get what she wants, and she’s still only 22 months old. BUT Hubs and I said when our eldest was around 4 that we think that age 2 upwards is when it starts to get really GOOD with kids, and I still agree with that 2nd time round and with a nearly 8 year old eldest. And I agree with everything you’ve written here :-) x

  • Aww lovely post, I actually think we are pretty lucky with Monkey, I mean of course he has his moments, and even days where it is tantrum central, but usually we can understand why he is unsettled and grumpy and on the whole he is not too terrible! Plus like you say, toddlers are so much fun too with the phrases they come out with and all their lovely giggles… Give me a toddler over a newborn any day! :) lovely post #allaboutyou

  • So true, it is good to finally start understanding them and for them to understand you. It makes such a difference. Plus with epic tantrums come epic cuddles and possibly the first ‘I love you mummy’. So it really isn’t so bad, is it?

    My little P is two in six weeks and is getting more loving by the day!

    #AllAboutYou

  • Hi well done Elsie and mum it’s great to watch them we had Olivia’s ballet ccneort a month a go i can tell you i had a tear in my eye it was fantastic and she did what ever it was the best

  • Kate. Your post is spot on for our experience with Freya but let me tell you that it gets even better! Freya is three and a half so when she says “I’ll do it” she’s capable of doing it to a reasonable level. The cuddles are better, the jokes and funny sayings are funnier and her creativity is through the roof. The tantrums are fewer but sometimes more intense.

    I cherished the twos but am loving the threes!

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