Today I am pissed off because…

Today I'm pissed off because...

IT’S rare that I swear or have a good ol’ moan on here. Very rare in fact.

This blog is all about positivity, empowerment, humour and glamour. Normally that is.

But today is going to be different I’m afraid. Because today I need to have a rant. Because I’m angry and sad and disappointed and just totally cheesed off with the world. And I need to share it.

If it’s not your cup of tea, then please do come back another day when I will return with positivity a mucho and plenty of smiles.

For the rest of you, why not share with me what you’re pissed off about right now and let’s put the world to rights  together.

 

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Today I am pissed off because…

 

  • A man who pumped four bullets into his girlfriend and killed her has just been given a measly 5 year sentence.
  • This man won’t even spend those five years in prison. No, no, no. He’ll spend most of that time at home on house arrest, because he’s broken you see.
  • This ‘broken’ man gets compassion, but his murdered ex? Well she gets no justice at all really, same for her family, all because he didn’t ‘mean’ to do it. Because he didn’t think of actually speaking out and asking his girlfriend where she was before he pulled the trigger. (Four times.)
  • A man who is a convicted rapist is walking the streets with a smile on his face and a girlfriend on his arm whilst the woman he raped has had to go into hiding. Again. Because people have released her name and new identity on social media. Because people have forgotten that she is the VICTIM.
  • A convicted rapist is still seen as a hero by many football fans – male and female. Because they sang a song, supporting him and mocking her, joyous at his release and possible re-signing to his old football club.
  • Some people still think that rape is something to be joked about. That it’s trivial.
  • A talented woman, professional broadcaster and mother to a daughter, somehow thinks that rape is ‘non violent’ and doesn’t cause ‘bodily harm’ and decided to air those views on national TV for all to listen to.
  • A previous freelancing client of mine whom I have had to chase more times than you can imagine for late payment has questioned my professional integrity and not paid me what I am rightly owed.
  • A lovely, warm and giving friend of mine has been betrayed by one of her friends. Because that person has tried to sell a story to the press about her personal life, behind her back.
  • Good people get taken too early. And they often get forgotten.
  • A professional woman in the media decided to share a picture of her bottom with the world, just before she carried out a interview with two talented and well respected singers. Because by behaving in such a way (even though her bottom is lovely) it ridicules the professionalism of women, in a society which already seems to place beauty above talent or self respect.
  • More and more naturally beautiful woman are ruining their looks and looking ridiculous by injecting their faces with too much botox and fillers. Because they are terrified of ageing. Because they fail to realise how gorgeous they are.
  • Most women are too afraid or too confused to call themselves a feminist.
  • Most men won’t call themselves feminists and think that feminism is about them. Or hating them. (It isn’t).
  • I go on Facebook and I see too much hatred.
  • I go on Twitter and I see too much self promotion.
  • As a woman I’m not supposed to have too much of a voice. Because as a woman, I’m expected to accept my lot.
  • Women are always expected to be super women. Because we do too much. Because we’re taken for granted. Because our worth is not appreciated. Because it doesn’t matter if we are murdered or get raped, as long as the men who did it are alright.

 

All of these things above make me sad. They make me livid. They make me disillusioned. They make me want to scream.

But they also make me want to speak out, change things, develop and become more self aware. To become a better person. To make more of a stand. To become one of life’s ‘good eggs’, not one of the rotters.

As with everything that is bad and shitty in this world, there’s always something we can learn from, isn’t there?

 

With love,

Kate

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22 Discussions on
“Today I am pissed off because…”
  • I’m feeling exactly the same – at all of the above, as well as a whole load of my own stuff. A good rant is just what we need sometimes, as this isn’t our default state! Rant, moan, shout and I know you (and hopefully I) will return back to our usually selfs come tomorrow xx

  • A lot of this has peed me off this week too (obviously not the bits about your friends but reading it now makes me annoyed on their behalf!) Sending hugs. You are brilliant and you are enough xxxxxxxxx

    • It really does but just demonstrates why we have to continue with the crusade! I do follow the No More Page 3 campaign but hadn’t heard about Child Eyes. Will investigate,thank you x

  • Oh lovely, only reading this now. Such a sad post from you, and unfortunately these things happen far too often. I wish i could help, but believe the more we women speak about it the more we can do about it xxx

    • Thank you lovely Mirka. It just makes my blood boil. I’d had enough of the world yesterday but you’re right, the more we can speak out about it, the more we can do :) x

  • This all sad and very true! What most do not realise is that men need feminism too! Men like myself who do work from home, but are also the stay at home (a tag I hate by the way as I am just a parent) who does get looked down upon because I am the main caregiver. There are a lot of men out there that do not consider what I do “manly”! There are also women out there that simply do not think a man should be the main caregiver and I have been told that! I have been shunned at the playground and I think that’s because the women think I am some perv just using my kids to hit on them which is far from the case. It’s a tough world out there!
    My dad raised me to never judge someone till you have walked a mile in their shoes, so now I have walked a mile in someones shoes as a stay at home dad and I absolutely support feminism and I am not afraid to voice it! It’s not a dirty word at all! All it simply means is that all people are treated equally and fairly in all aspects!

  • I’m glad you wrote this. I hope people read it and take a stand. You, my lovely, are an inspiration. You are so strong and use your voice with amazing power. X

  • I totally agree with you and I was sadden by Reeva Steenkamp’s parents speech yesterday on the news! I felt they played their reaction down to the final sentencing and were far too kind towards him. Heart Breaking.
    As for the rape and footballers – where do I start, complete rage. The subject of rape shudders under a massive dark cloud, one that doesn’t get acknowledgement it should and again angers me deeply.

    On a cheerier note – the photo?? AMAZING!! I love your blog.

  • We live in a pretty crappy world really, but it’s only by people saying enough is enough and taking a stand that we have any hope of making it better. Very powerful post xx #brilliantblogposts

  • What a great post (if really sad, I agree with you on many of the points you’ve made). I definitely think it helps to have a vent sometimes, life does suck and it doesn’t hurt to acknowledge it. Life isn’t all roses and unicorn farts! I do wonder sometimes if I use twitter too much to try and promote my blog etc… definitely food for thought, it would be nice if I could use it for trying to make a change/help a cause. I do think I try and help people on it though, via RT and answering questions etc! x

  • When I watch the news or even just look at my TL I see a scary world. I usually think what kind of world is this?! I agree to your sentiments. I wish for better things. I hope I can be one of the better things. #brillblogposts

  • Sometimes you’ve just got to get it out there and have a good old scream! I totally get where you are coming from in all of the above. I no longer watch/listen to/read the news as I’m so fed up of the permanent negativity of it all and the putting down of any women’s achievements. I try to teach L that she should treat people the way she wants to be treated, to have respect and self-esteem, but to do that I have to hide her from the world’s media who are offering her a different story! Great post lovely x

  • It is so shocking that he will serve just 10 months and that in a safe environment. There are so many totally unjust things that could bring me to tears daily. Keep using your voice to inform and educate x #BrillBlogPosts

  • Just shocking, the whole lot of it and makes me despair too, so, so sad, frustrating and unjust. Like you said on twitter, we all need to keep making our voices heard! We must wear our feminist badges proudly and keep fighting for change. I’m a strong believer and practiser of micro politics, the small things that subvert what we deem wrong or unfair, creating big change- and blogs champion this ideology. Thanks for linking up to #brilliantblogposts x

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