How to find your blog soul mate

blog soul mate

THERE are millions of blogs out there, including this one.

Millions of people sharing their thoughts and lives on a regular basis, for you to enjoy.

But how do you find ‘the one’?

The blog that speaks to you. The blog that makes you hang onto every word. Your blog soul mate.

How the devil do you track them down and introduce them to your busy, hectic life?

On this blog, I’ve talked often about blogging – how you can improve your blog, what blogging has done for me and the realities of being a blogger.

Yet, it occurred to me the other night whilst I was sat having my tea, that I haven’t really covered blogging, for the reader.

For you guys! – most of which (to my knowledge) – are not fellow bloggers.

Besides being a blogger myself, I am a huge blog fan. Indeed, the majority of stuff I read these days, is not in magazines or on news sites, but on blogs.

Brilliant, brave, beautiful blogs.

Reading blogs has opened my awareness, encouraged me to try different things and welcomed me into fascinating new worlds.

If you’re wondering how on earth to find some decent blogs to add to read to your reading collection, then step this way.

Here’s how to find the blogs that will capture your heart and how to know when you’ve found ‘the one’.


How to find your blog soul mate


1. Think about what appeals to you

What are you looking for? What interests you?

Is is stunning photography or video? Beautiful writing or a glamorous life? Parenting topics or crafty DIYs?

Think about what floats your boat and then search accordingly.


2. Check out recommended blogs

Most bloggers read a lot of blogs. Quelle surprise. And most of us like to share our favourites with you! (It’s all part of the blogging love).

Here for instance, are some of my favourites, all of which are well worth a visit.

So do check out recommended blogs by bloggers, networks or forums and see which ones stand out from the crowd.


3. When you read a post, dig deeper then follow

We’ve all done it. Come across some post on social media, read it, loved it, perhaps even commented and moved on, only to soon forget about that brilliant blog we found! Argh!

There is nothing more frustrating, as a reader. And nothing more heart breaking for a blogger.

I’ve done this so many times, read something brilliant but then not had time to dig deeper into their blog and make sure  I was following them.

So don’t make my mistake. If you read something that resonates with you, take a few minutes to check out the rest of the blog and follow! Chances are you won’t regret it.


4.  Don’t just think the biggest blogs are the best

Yes many are, and for good reason, but smaller, newer blogs can also be brilliant! New blogs are launching every day, so keep your eyes peeled and stay curious.

Sometimes we are too often swayed by blog names that pop up a lot in the media or whom everyone shouts about, which is natural and absolutely fine, but don’t overlook the smaller ones too.

My blogging favourites are a mixture of ‘famous’ blogs and relatively unknown gems, and this is exactly the way I like it.


5. Listen to your heart

There’s a song in here somewhere, but in all seriousness, the difference between finding a blog you like and discovering one you love, is all to do with the ‘heart’.

When you come across a blog, think. How does it make you feel?

Nothing? Something? Everything?

All of my favourite blogs have one thing in common. They may be heavy on words or full of photographs. They may cover fashion, feminism or parenting. They may be written by a woman or a man. They may be hugely successful or a mere whisper in the blog world.

But they all – every single one – speak to my heart.

They brighten my day when I’m feeling rotten. They inspire me to be a better person. They make me roar with laughter or cry floods of tears.

They are real and honest and charming and wonderful, and my online world is a much happier place for having them in it.

When you find a blog you love, indeed, when you find your blog soul mate, like with all matters of the heart, you will just know.

You’ll feel light, happy and motivated or emotional, passionate and moved. You’ll hang on to every word or pour over every photo. And you’ll rarely miss a post.

Yes folks, finding your blog soul mate is a truly fabulous thing.

And do you want to know what’s even better? Unlike relationships, it’s perfectly more than ok to have more than just one.


Ok everyone, how did you come across your favourite blog/s? And what makes your favourite/s, exactly that? Be you a blogger or a non-blogger, I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.

With love,



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27 Discussions on
“How to find your blog soul mate”
  • What a lovely post, Katie. I love blogs because they’re (mostly) honest, from the heart, and reflect the bloggers’ personality. As you say, there’s a blog out there for everyone to appreciate, and there are some amazing ones out there. Thanks so much for including me on your list – and I realised there’s blogs on there I need to check out! Xxx

    • Great comment Leigh! There really is a blog for everyone, it’s just a matter of finding it. So glad I found you and yours – you’re definitely one of my blog soulmates ;-) x

  • Another gorgeous post darling, and I feel truly honoured to be included on your list of recommended reads. Keep these fab posts coming. Have a wonderful weekend xxx

    • Thank you darling and your presence on my reading list is a pleasure. And totally well deserved. Have a super weekend too! x

  • Like Leigh I love the honesty, the rawness, the closeness of blogs and I’m blessed to have found so many friends through blogging, including you darling. Thank you, thank you Katie for including me in your list of favourite reads – I’m already an avid follower or many of them but there are a few new ones I’m off to discover! x

    • Oh Michelle it was my absolute pleasure! How on earth could I not include you?! Thanks for your lovely comment x

  • Great advice. Looking beyond the ‘big names’ is definitely important. Almost out of necessity, many of the bigger blogs cover quite a diverse range of topics to cater for their wide audience. There’s nothing wrong with that, but I often find that it’s more niche, focussed voices that are the ones that feel like they’re speaking to me personally.

    When I compare my follow list to the names that appear on the Tots100, I only regularly follow a handful of the latter, while I spend maybe 90% of my time reading ‘small’ blogs.

    • Hurrah for the smaller blogs! I agree with you on the niche, focussed voices, most definitely. Sadly I often feel that many of the bigger blogs don’t really have a voice as such, if that makes sense. But thank goodness for bloggers everywhere! Blogs sure make my life happier :)

  • You are so right here. It fascinates me how I find myself selecting a post from a linky only to find that without knowing it I repeatedly find myself on certain blogs. I love it when i/ find a new one but I also love that somehow I am pulled back to particular sites over and over – like this one. #SundayStars

    • Ah thats interesting Kirsten! And thank you for being pulled back to mine over and over. Made my day to hear that x

  • Finding blogs via linky’s always makes me pick blogs that I may not have picked up in other places…which I LOVE. I love finding one that grabs me and draws me in. I love diversity too, I like finding one that isn’t the norm from what I usually read! Jess x #sundaystars

    • Yep linkys are brilliant for us bloggers Jess, totally with you there. As I am with the diversity too, I like to hear that I am hearing someone’s unique voice! x

    • It’s awful isn’t it Debbie?! Agree that linkys are super for finding fabulous new blogs but as you say, not great for non bloggers. x

  • Great post! I like to feel like I’m getting to know a blogger when I’m reading their blog and they aren’t just writing for the sake of it. I like blogs that make me laugh, or bloggers that have a similar set up to me (toddler, newish blogger etc). I’ve found some really great ones recently, I just need to make more use of BLoglovin!

    • Thanks Elaine! Yes me too. Personally I love bloggers that share their souls and stories, as well as their wisdom. I’m not really one for ‘look how amazing my life is’. Glad to hear you’ve found some super ones and as for bloglovin’ – well I don’t think i’ve even really started on there yet! x

    • Ah yes, it’s a super feeling when you come across one and just think ‘YES, I love this blogger!’ x

  • This is a great post. I totally agree.
    The biggest blogs are not always the best! ALOT of my favourite blog are quite new!
    Also, I write all my favourite blogs down in a notebook so I don’t loose them :)

    • Thank you Beth and what a brilliant tip!! Yes folks, do as Beth says and get them written down! x

  • I’ve found a few i like to read, they are more for blogging tips. The others are if their post titles are eye catching :) xx #sundaystars

  • What a great blog post idea!! I read blogs for years before I started blogging and have always loved the verity and talent that’s out there for us all to read for free! Thank you once again for including my blog on your list of recommendations, that makes me beyond happy! You are one of my favourites too and I must get round to publishing my list very soon! Thank you so much for linking up to Sunday Stars. xxx

  • Loved this post Katie & you are so right – it’s charm & an individual personality that brings me back to their blog. Finding one that’s a kindred spirit is such a joy.
    Nic x

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