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TOMORROW afternoon I will be stripping off.

And, slipping into an itsy bitsy teeny weeny bikini. Maybe the black one. Possibly the red one.

But either way, I will be popping it on and hot footing it to the nearest beach or pool.

I haven’t been abroad for about four years so I am ready for the sunshine and the waves, the sand and the breeze, the relaxation and the switching off.

But it’s been a looong time since I’ve bared my bod in a sunny destination in public. And since then, my body has changed quite a bit.

It’s been through a pregnancy. It’s given birth. It’s breastfed my daughter and it’s aged a little too.

It is not the same as it once was, when I last strutted my sassy stuff on a hot Ibiza beach.

It’s not as lean. Nor as toned.

It’s showing a few more signs of wear.

I have a few stretchmarks and a kind of squishy bit at the bottom of my tummy that will never go back to how it was.

Yes, I am different.

Not that much. But enough.

Enough to feel a little nervous. Enough to have wibble wobbles about baring all. Enough to make my heart beat a little faster when I decided to dig out my designer bikinis the other week that I haven’t worn for four whole years and try them on.

In broad daylight.

I’ve always been pretty confident about my shape and size, but I admit, I had to take a few deep breaths when I went to try on the first one.

When I went to look in the mirror.

But what I saw, erased the nerves and then made me feel a little silly, for even worrying about it.

Because what I saw was a more feminine, womanly shape.

I saw curves. I saw the stretchmarks that came when I grew Elsie in my tummy.

I saw a body that knows how to love life. That enjoys great food, wine, dancing and hot sex.

I saw a body that gave me the greatest gift.

I saw a body that looks different but is still pretty bloody marvellous all the same.

And I saw me.

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I saw a woman whom has grown more comfortable in her own skin.

I saw a woman whom doesn’t believe in diets and will not support them.

I saw a woman who loves her self, even the imperfect, wobbly bits.

And I realised how fortunate I am, to see myself this way, when so many don’t or can’t.

Because we’re not meant to be like this are we?

I’m not meant to be ok with showing off my imperfect flesh. And neither of course are you.

We’re supposed to feel the fear, we’re supposed to eat less and exercise more, we’re supposed to be nervous and unsure whether we can still pull off a bikini.

But I do not and I will not.

What have I done in terms of getting my body ‘bikini ready’?

Very, very little.

Over the past few weeks, I’ve eaten the same as I always have. Sometimes chips. Other times a salad.

I’ve drank wine and guzzled cups of tea.

I’ve sorted out what I’m wearing with my bikinis, because you know a gal likes to look her best.

I’ve shaved my legs, I’ve exfoliated and later, I’m gonna slap on some fake tan because I like to have a bit of colour.

And bob’s your uncle, what do you know, but I’m ready! Da, daa! Beach, here I come!

My ‘bikini body’ is not perfect. Far from it.

But that’s OK, I love it anyway!

And guess what my friend?

When it comes to your bikini body, so should you.

So please, PLEASE, do. x



With love,






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  • Erm, Yeh…. So just need a holiday to go on before I don mine. But you know what they say when aiming for that bikini body? Get a body. Put a bikini on it. Ta-da – a bikini body! Have an amazing holiday, you brainy and beautiful lady xx

  • Bravo Katie and I absolutely agree -ditch the diet, use common sense and balance is a great word! Respect :)

  • Hi Kate – there are a lot of these bikini body blog posts doing the rounds at the moment. I love the sentiments expressed, espescially in yours. Positive body image is such an important hting for women and men. That said….what really attracted me to this post was the photographs. Do my eyes decieve me or is that Barnsley town hall?? I think I mentioned to you when we met that I briefly lived in Barnsley. If I have the location correct then it’s changed massively over recent years (apologies if this is the most random comment on your blog for some time!)

    • Thanks so much John! And no your eyes don’t deceive you. It is indeed Barnsley Town Hall! The town has changed so much John, you wouldn’t recognise much of it now probably. All for the better too I should add. ;-)

  • I think this is my favourite bikini body related post I’ve ever read. Purely for the ‘I don’t believe in diets’ line. From one woman who has never been on a diet to another, I love you for this as you are the only other woman I have EVER met, yes EVER who has said that. I think every other woman I have met in my entire life has been on some kind of diet or another. I bet you look amazing in your bikini and I salute you for not feeling the pressure to get bikini body ready. I bloody love you, you marvellous lady. Xx P.S that was probably a bit of a rambly comment but it got me all excited it’s such a great post. Xx

    • Thank you so much my love! Sadly, I cannot say I have never been on a diet.

      Keeping it ‘real’, I have to admit that many years ago, probably about 12 years ago, I did do the Special K diet which left me feeling like a miserable wreck for two weeks. Never again! Lesson learned! ;-)

      Like you, I’ll all for self improvement, losing weight by eating well and exercising more is brilliant. But yep, I’m with you, I don’t believe in diets one bit nor will I ever mention them on here or in my life. Mwah! xxx

  • Great post. Seeing ourselves as so much more than the way we look is very important. As women we are indirectly and directly told that we have to look beautiful to be okay but who defines beautiful and quite frankly ‘why?’. We all have so much to offer the world and it has very little to do with how we look.
    What I love about this post Katie also is your appreciation of your body and what it has done for you. Bearing children is an amazing thing to do and as mothers being proud of that is wonderful. Thank you. Kirsten

    • Thank you so much Kirsten. I could not agree with you more. As human beings, what we offer should not just be about our looks. I would rather be happy and imperfect, than perfect and beautiful any day of the week. x

  • Love it, so refreshing to have a positive post about our bodies. The press do love to criticise and give ridiculous ideas of what we are all supposed to look like in their eyes.

    I live on a Greek island, I’m a size 20 and I go swimming every day, I were a 2 piece though not a bikini.

    If you saw some of the sights that I see every day. no-one would worry about how they look. We are all so different.

    I see skinny, fat, tall, short, young and old. The main thing is they are getting out into the water, having fun and getting some exercise. There are Greek ladies into their 80’s who still go early every morning and late every evening. I’m pretty sure that’s one of the reasons they’ve made it to 80…

    Thanks for sharing

    • Ah, great comment Amanda! And I have to say, I am green with envy that you live on Greek island, as I’ve just come back from Kefalonia and oh, how i miss it already!

      You are so right – we are all different and when you see others on the beach (all sizes, shapes and ages) you realise that it doesn’t really matter what we look like as long as we are happy and enjoying the ocean, the sunshine and the sand. x

  • So inspiring as usual! We are already back from holiday which is a bit depressing as everybody else seems to be leaving at the moment and I had a few issues with my bikini body this year… not because of wobbly bits (yoga has sorted all of that out quite naturally ;-)) but because I have a second degree burn mark all over my leg from where I poured boiling water over myself. Not pretty but still me and as with what you mention too there is always a story to tell behind it! xx

    • Thanks Christine! We all have issues don’t we at times? But you know, I just think, we have to try and own our bodies, no matter how ‘imperfect’ they may be or seem to us. So what if they’re not the prettiest or leanest? Can you imagine not enjoying swimming in the sea or feeling the sun’s rays because we’re too scared of what people think of us? I know I can’t :) x

  • Wow, this post is totally inspiring! I don’t have a bikini-ready body in the fashion industry sense of the word (ie. thin, lean, etc.). I am so glad you have grown self-confidence and body positivity! I will work on the same. #SundaysStars

  • I love your attitude to this and would love your confidence. I’m getting there slowly with exercise and eating healthily but I’ve spent so long worrying about what I see as imperfections. I need to remind myself what this ol’ body of mine has given me – 2 wonderful children – and be more confident. Inspiring post – thank you! Hx #Sunday Stars

    • Thanks Helen. So glad to hear you’re making progress and hopefully you’ll stop worrying about your (perceived) imperfections soon. :) x

  • i don’t know if I’ll ever have the strength or confidence to wear a bikini again. I have a lot of stretch marks (as a midwife once told, some of the worst she had seen, nice eh?) But currently I am losing weight, not through a strict diet but by sensible eating and drinking (and of course exercise) and that has made me feel more confident and powerful to wear some things in my wardrobe I’ve bypassed in the last couple of years. Hope you’ve had/are having a gorgeous holiday lovely xxx

    • Well my love, I think in time, you never know. If you’re already feeling more confident and powerful about wearing things in your wardrobe, who knows what the future holds. :) X And yes I had an AMAZING holiday, thank you x

  • I think you look absolutely amazing in this post, so full of confidence. You have a woman’s figure. I won’t say the perfect figure as I think everyone has the perfect figure for themselves. You definately ooze confidence and you do look amazing!

    How did the bikini experience go?

    I found your blog link through 30plusblogs and wanted to say hello.


    • Thanks so much Carrie! Very kind of you to say. The bikini experience went really well :) Watch this space for a few shots and a holiday post soon. Thanks for popping over to say hello! Love the #30plusblogs. x

  • Well there’s a challenge. I’m going through a bit of a ‘I hate my body’ phase at the moment. I’m well into my forties and am just struggling to keep the weight off (something I’ve never experienced before). I absolutely agree with your sentiments here, I just need to believe it! Thanks Katie and you look amazing!

    • It’s tough at times Suzanne, isn’t it?! So sorry to hear you are having a struggle. Our bodies change so much. Keep believing! x

  • Hello lovely, it’s been a while since I have visited. I have missed your beautiful writing and refreshing perspective on life. You truly are an inspiration. Every woman should be proud of their body, like you say it has been brought a lot. Just beautiful x

  • My mummy wouldnt be seen dead in a bikini and hates her body. She spends the majority of the time trying to cover it. She went out in a corset the other day and spent the whole day feeling self conscious. She wishes she had your confidence and mindset x #BrilliantBlogPosts

  • I love this positive and empowering way of thinking!
    We have such a skewed concept of a ‘bikini-body’ that is heavily airbrushed and toned. As a mum now to my daughter, I think it is SO important to love our bodies and show people what an actually REAL and AMAZING body looks like.
    Have an amazing holiday! x

  • Oh Katie, once again you have written such an inspiring post. You are gorgeous – inside and out. And that is the beauty that shines through. I don’t have much confidence in the way I look – never have! But having Little Miss H has actually made me prouder of my body. Because it did such an amazing thing. But I am not sure that I will be donning a bikini any time soon. Thanks for linking up to #SundaysStars. I am sorry that it has taken me so long to comment. I have just moved house and have been without WiFi forever. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

    • Thank you so much for your lovely comment Mrs H. I am so chuffed you are prouder of your body now, and as for the bikini…well you never know my love, you never know. (But I think you can do it) xxx

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