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SOMETIMES I get so nervous about stuff, that I try and find any excuse not to do something that I know I really should be doing.

That I know will be good for me. That I know will take me to new exciting places.

In the end, I ignore the excuses – push them off a imaginatory cliff – and I get on with it.

Why? Because the alternative of not doing something is far worse.

I don’t want to miss an opportunity. I don’t want to be an old lady looking back on a safe life, that is full of regrets and ‘what if’s?’

And ultimately I want to have a story that is worth telling.

Make no bones about it. It is terrifying putting yourself out there. I know that. I get it.

The nerves. The sick feeling you get in the very depth of your stomach. The blushing cheeks. The sweaty palms. The fear.

The thoughts that people will judge you.

The thought that perhaps people won’t like you. “Who on earth does she think she is?”

The thought that you might fail.

FAIL! I mean, just the thought of that! Jeez!

Taking all of this into consideration, when you think of it, putting yourself out there isn’t very appealing at all, is it? On the surface that is.

So why should we?

Why should we leave our comfortable, snug as a bug, soft as cashmere, safety blanket?

We’re doing ok, right? Life will just sort of happen for us, right? Our dreams will magically come true of their accord, right?

Wrong. Wrong. Wrong.

Some years ago, I used to find myself feeling really envious of other people and their success. And I would hate myself for it.

I did the whole ‘woe is me’ thing. And I would feel really sorry for myself.

I’d spend my days dreaming of a better, more exciting life. A life that would keep me on the edge of my seat. But yet it didn’t quite happen.

Life was good but not brilliant and I couldn’t for the life of me figure out why. I couldn’t for the life of me figure out why amazing stuff happened to ‘her’ or ‘him’ but not me.


And then one day, I decided to jump to reach those stars. Much higher than I had before.

I stepped out of my comfort zone into unfamiliar territory. And the more I did it, the more I started to believe.

“I can bloody do this!” I would say to myself.

I also stopped caring about what other people thought (so much). And the less I cared, the braver I became.

If you really want to live a life that is worth living, you have to put yourself out there.

This is what life demands and expects from you.

You can try and hide your light and lurk in the shadows all you like, but life will look for you and if need be, grab you by the scruff of your neck and force you out, until you start to realise your potential.

Life will never let you rest so easy, because it wants more for you.

And, it will keep on trying, for a while at least, until eventually giving up and leaving you in your safe little hide out.

Don’t let that happen.

You can have the most magnificent dreams,  but they will never come true, unless you get your bottom into gear and put in some serious graft.

You can imagine doing all kinds of wonderful, brilliant things with your time here on this planet, but if you don’t put yourself out there, you life will never be what you want it to be!

That is the truth.

Putting yourself out there is one of the most difficult things any of us can do.

That’s why your hear famous talented actors talk about stage fright even though they have decades of experience under their belt.

That’s why so many bloggers and writers find it so hard to publish something that their soul is screaming for them to share.

That’s why so many people walk around with their heads down when they are out and about, too afraid to catch a stranger’s eyes.

People are terrified of being seen. Of being heard. Of being themselves.

And it doesn’t matter how old you get or how much experience you gain – nerves, fear, shyness, low body confidence – these things, they affect us all.

So yes, people judge. (We all shouldn’t but we do.) And sure people will have an opinion about you. And yes – I hate to break it to you – but you will fail occasionally.

But I ask you this…so what?

So what?!

Will the world end? Will life not go on? Will you never go out in public again?

Nope. Didn’t think so.

If I’d let my fear and nerves talk myself out of all the stuff I’ve done over the past few years, I’ll tell you what would have happened to me.

Very. Little.

I’d be in an unfulfilling job, working long hours, away from Elsie and feeling miserable.

I’d be looking at the clock all day, wishing for it to be home time.

I’d be living for the weekends, but doing very little with my spare time.

I’d be meeting the same people, having the same conversations.

I’d be safe and predictable but dying a little inside, every day. And I sure as hell, would not be writing this to you now.

Do not deny yourself the happiness of a fulfilling, creative life. Do not let your fear or other people’s judgement get in your way.

Putting yourself out there is never, ever as bad as the alternative.

This is your precious story, no one else’s.

But I’m afraid it is you, only you, that can change your script.


With love,





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30 Discussions on
“Why are you hiding? The world needs you!”
  • Totally awesome honey and I’m high fiving you right now! You’re so right – let the critics and naysayers have their pettiness, feel the fear and do it anyway! So important to be able to look back and not regret having NOT done something. Fab confidence inspiring post from you again Mrs xxx

    • Gosh it is, isn’t it?! I’m always spurred into action when I try and think of myself as an old lady (if i’m fortunate enough to live that long) and what I may be feeling about the many years that have gone by. Life goes by in a blink of an eye and just like you, I want to do my damnedest to ensure I savour as much of it as I can. x

  • I have just read this after spending all morning trying to ring art directors and getting nowhere. The real pain of putting yourself out there is not only in the initial ‘putting yourself out there’ but in the ongoing journey of doing so when there is no feedback, no pat on the back and no one to cheer you on. Still, in doing these things I have had more commissions than I ever have so it is gradually paying off – but it’s not easy. I have discovered the life that I really want is bloody hard work – it comes at a price. But it’s so worth it.

    • Yes Lisa. What a BRILLIANT point you make. You’re right (perhaps this could be my Part 2), to keep going putting yourself out there when you’re facing constant rejection or just finding that nothing is going to plan, is incredibly tough. Tougher in fact. Thanks for reminding me of that. It’s not easy as you say, however I am delighted that it is paying of for you and that the graft is worth it in the end! Keep knocking on those doors! ;-)

  • Yes, love this, every single word, keep rocking lady, it’s all about channelling those nerves to making them spur is onwards and most importantly always doing what makes us happy and fulfilled, whatever that may be x

    • Indeed, it really is. So hard to do sometimes, especially if we’re suffering a lull in confidence etc, but as your huge success as a blogger proves – you have to put yourself out there,believe and aim for those stars x

  • Another cracker Kate! You have such a way with words and instilling confidence into others. Yet again I’m leaving feeling a tiny bit stronger and ready to take on anything. I’m going to work on Monday to a job I’m having issues with and this has given me a little boost in the right direction xx

  • Fabulous huni! I have actually decided that even if I am scared of doing something this year (but it is good for me or my blog) then I will embrace it and get one with it, for exactly these reasons. xxx

  • Fab post and I couldn’t agree more. You just have to believe in yourself and try things and even if you fail – well I’d rather have tried and failed than never tried at all. It is hard sometimes to do things that you find scary but then again once you do it, apart from anything else, that amazing sense of satisfaction you get is second to none. Loving your posts x

  • You are absolutely right, we have to take control and responsibility for achieving what we want to achieve, no one else can do it for us. You don’t regret the things you have done, only those that you haven’t. Great post x #AllAboutYou

  • Brilliant. Just brilliant.

    I’ve been fighting with myself but since your ‘new best friend’ post I’ve turned a corner. Everything is looking up and I’m feeling fabulous. I want to try harder with the blog, I WILL try harder. The only snag is we’re going on holiday for six weeks in the summer and I don’t want to build up the blog now, lose readers and followers over the summer, and have to build it up again. I don’t know if this is just me trying to hold myself back or not.

    After the holiday I’ll be jumping into this thing with both feet! I’ve realised it can be a real thing and I love that. :)

    There are a few of bloggers I find truly inspirational and you are one of them lady! Thank you so much for writing what you do and keep going. Always. xx

  • YES Katie! I think you wrote this for me, this is where I am with my life right at this very moment. I simply have to put myself out there and believe in myself and tell my own story, have my own voice. I so want to achieve and have spent a long time (too long) just resting on my laurels and yes feeling bitterly jealous of other people who have achieved and yet not realising that they have had to put all the hard work in and a little bit of risk at putting themselves out there.

    I really couldn’t agree more with this and I love you for it! x x x

  • My arse is officially in gear Katie!! thank you for this, it was just what I needed. I constantly feel like this, like I’d like to just hide away (and perhaps read a book in bed and nap) but that’s never going to get me where I really want to be (I’m not sure where that is but it’s not bed!!!).
    Great post lovely xxx

  • I adore this post and what you’ve said is so true – you just HAVE to put yourself out there sometimes, whatever the consequences. If you don’t, you only have yourself to blame for not getting what you really want. I’ll keep coming back to this post whenever my confidence falters, thanks Katie :) Mim :) #AllAboutYou

  • I have been meaning to read this post since I saw it pop into my inbox, and I am so glad that I have read it today in particular. Life is a funny thing; I truly believe that people come into our lives or we hear them say certain things at precisely the time when we need it if we are open to receiving that wisdom. You know I start my new yoga project next week, and this, plus blogging is part of grasping my dreams, and leaping into unfamiliar territory, making my life happen, rather than stagnating in the safe (if luxurious!) world of full time work I was used to. Thank you wise friend, thank you for your impeccable timing xxx

  • Love this, it’s just the words I needed to read at a time when I really needed them. I’m often afraid to do things for fear of how it will be perceived or fear of failing, and I’m terrified of putting myself out there, but really I just need to let go and just bloody do it!

  • Love love the end of this post, well I love all of it but the last line rings so true – I’m afraid it is you, only you, that can change your script. We are in charge of our own destiny! Great post, again. #sundaystars

  • interesting post, but what is a girl to do when there’s something i really would love to do and know for sure i could do it, but it would mean stopping doing the other thing that i do which i love doing too! eh tell me tell me! :) x

  • As a fellow freelance journalist, I relate to so much of what you say here. It is tough putting yourself out there, battling with the constant rejections and being ignored. But you just have to come back fighting and believe in yourself even more. Despite 14 years of journalism experience, I was so scared about putting myself out there with my blog and people laughing at me, but it’s turned out to be one of the best things I’ve done. Life is what you make of it, and if you don’t put yourself out there, then someone else will, and will be living the dream you wanted.

  • Fab advice, you know I agree with it all, we can be whomever we want to be, and confidence is contagious, once we start believing in ourselves, even a tiny bit, quickly anything is possible. Fab pic of you too girl, love those shades. Thanks for linking up to #brilliantblogposts xx

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